Three weeks have been earmarked yearly in the Jewish calendar for mourning. These 21 days begin on the fast of the 17th of Tamuz and culminate on the fast of the 9th of Av. During this time, the Jewish nation mourns for the destruction of both Temples and the ensuing exiles.
Jews the world over refrain from specific activities during this time, some of which includes not shaving or taking haircuts, not listening to music and not conducting weddings. More than mere prohibitions, they are demonstrations. For three weeks, the Jewish nation demonstrates its sorrow and pain for all that it has endured collectively throughout the ages.
The prophet states (Isaiah 66:10) ‘Be glad for Jerusalem and rejoice with her, all you who love her; exult with her in exultation, all you who mourn for her.’ The Talmud notes (Taanis 30b) ‘From here they said: All who mourn for Jerusalem will merit to witness her joy, while anyone who does not mourn for Jerusalem will not witness her joy.’ Thus, we are charged with an obligation and offered a great opportunity. if we utilize this time to mourn for all that we once possessed, we are assured to one day be spectators in its glorious restoration.
The concept of mourning for the Temple as observed by the Jewish nation transcends what is commonly viewed as acts of mourning. In the main, mourning indicates profound sadness for something that has occurred. When one cries over a loss they exhibit pain, a sense of hopelessness and sometimes despair. Jewish mourning for the Temple, however, while certainly based on past events, is future oriented. The Jewish nation mourns, cries and yearns for what the future holds more than it weeps for what was. While this may seem queer, it holds within it a great truth.
In the writings of the ancients, it states that Hashem decreed that the dead should be forgotten by the living. Had we lived in a world where people never forgot, we wouldn’t be able to function. Sorrows would forever remain fresh in our minds, hampering any attempt at moving on. As such, Hashem decreed that while the pain for the loss of a loved one would be great, it would recede. With time, the memory would fade.
Yet, our nation never forgot the loss of Jerusalem. We mourn the loss as if it was a recent occurrence. When the mourners by the rivers of Babylon cried “If I forget thee, O Jerusalem, let my right hand forget its skill,” they spoke for all successive generations. Why can we not simply move on, like one who mourns the loss of a dear relative?
The answer is, writes the Chassidic Masters, that the decree of forgetfulness extends only to the dead. Jerusalem lives. Like a lost child alive somewhere, one cannot find closure. We too search. Our mourning is future oriented. We cry for what we once had, but we yearn for the future. We search for what we are missing, not for what is no more.
The Zohar states that the months of Tamuz and Av are times of grave danger for the Jewish nation. These months are times when evil has an opportunity to reign in the world. Harmful forces gain the upper hand and can roam the world and cause damage.
The 17th day of Tamuz is one of several communal fast days set forth by the sages. This was the day when Noach sent the dove out of the ark for the first time and the poor bird found no place to rest. We are told that the Jewish nation is compared to a dove. Symbolically, the bird lacking rest is echoed in our nation’s current state of affairs. From Shiva Asar B’Tamuz through Tisha B’Av, throughout the generations, we find our nation facing all kinds of tragedies time and again. These three weeks are called “Bayn Hamitzarim”, the space between two rocks, a place where one can get harmed and trapped.
Another event that occurred on the 17th day of Tamuz was when Moshe broke the Luchos. He had ascended to Heaven after the giving of the Torah to study and fully absorb all the details to the laws of the Torah. Moshe was to remain in heaven for forty days and nights and then descend with the written Tablets in hand. At that time, bad elements among our nation gained the upper hand and began worshipping a Golden Calf that they had fashioned with their own hands. As Moshe descended from the mountain, he saw a nation that had so recently reached the highest spiritual heights now depraved. Now they worshiped a golden creature. At that time, Moshe hurled the Luchos – the miraculous sapphire tablets inscribed with the “writing” of G-d – shattering them at the side of the mountain.
More troubles were to befall our nation. It was on this day that the sacrifices stopped being brought on the altar, shortly before the destruction of the First Temple. Up until the 17th of Tamuz, the Kohanim who were holed up in the Temple still had animals for Karbanos. However, on the 17th day of Tamuz, the altar went cold. There were no more animals available for the holy service.
Yet again, during the time leading up to the destruction of the Second Temple, tragedy befell our people. Once again, our enemies laid siege to the Holy City of Jerusalem. And finally, on the 17th day of Tamuz, Titus and his Roman hordes breached the city walls and overran the city.
Various activities were restricted during these Three Weeks as a form of mourning:
This is a time of heavy mourning, even though thousands of years have passed since the destruction of both Temples. If this seems remote, then it is time to relate the story of Napoleon. One day, Napoleon was out and about exploring his vast kingdom. Suddenly, he heard lamenting and wailing. The great conqueror followed the sounds of the sobbing, and soon enough he found himself in the Jewish ghetto in front of a Jewish synagogue. From the windows of the Shul, he could hear the anguished cry of so many people. Napoleon peered in, and the whole situation looked very wrong to him. There were grown men sitting on the ground. They sported overgrown hair, they clutched little books and they were crying fiercely. Napoleon fancied himself a fair ruler, one with compassion, and he now wanted to display that trait. Here were some of his own citizens, and they seemed awfully upset.
And so, the French ruler began to ask them questions. “What tragedy happened to this community?” he wondered. The answer he received was that their great Temple had been destroyed. “Who destroyed it?” he inquired. “Why, the Romans!” was the rejoinder. “When did they do this injustice?” asked Napoleon. He thought the pain must have been recent, as the mourning was so great. The answer, when given, floored him. More than a thousand years had passed, Napoleon learned, and still, the Jewish nation mourned their Temple! Legend has it that Napoleon concluded, “A nation that mourns with such angst so many years after their Temple was destroyed is a nation that will surely never disappear…and will certainly rebuild their Temple one day.”
Twelve days into the three weeks, we begin a separate set of even sadder days, known as “the Nine Days”. Aaron the Priest died on this day. Mshenichnas Av, Mima’atim B’simcha. When the month of Av enters, we lessen our happiness.
Restricted Activities During the Nine Days
The final nine days of the three-week period is when the mourning becomes intensified. This period begins on Rosh Chodesh Av and concludes on the Ninth of Av. All prior restricted activities remain, and a few more are put in place.
While these restrictions are in force through Tisha B’Av, some are removed for Shabbos, as well as for Erev Shabbos. Although we do not eat meat or drink wine during the Nine Days, on Shabbos we may. And while we do not bathe during the Nine Days, we may bathe on Erev Shabbos, however it is governed by various customs and limitations.
We are told that “mishenichnas Av, Mima’atim B’simcha”. We tone down our joyousness during this month. During the Nine Days:
The 9th of Av is the anniversary of the most horrific episodes in Jewish history. Both Temples were burned on this day. The expulsion of the Jews of Spain occurred on this day. Germany began WWI on August 1, 1914 – which fell out on Tisha B’av. The Final Solution (ideas of for killing Jews during WWII) was formulated two days before Tisha B’av (the 7th of Av). In short, history demonstrates that this is a most pain-laden time for our people. Why is this so?
Way back, after our people had been forged into the nation of G-d, and when we were to go from the revelation at Sinai directly to the Promised Land, we transgressed. In the desert, we cried for no reason when the spies terrified us into not wanting to enter the Promised Land. At that time, G-d said, “this day when you cried for no valid reason, which is the ninth of Av, will be slated as the day for you to cry when you will have good cause to cry.” Punishments are often slated for our nation during this period.
In the synagogue, Megillas Eichah, the Book of Lamentations is read. The scroll tells of the destruction of the temple, the Jewish people, and the Holy Land. CLICK HERE FOR DOWNLOAD
We adhere to all the various laws of mourning for at least the first half of the day of Tisha B’av (until Chatzos which is the midway point of the day, at around 1 p.m.). Like someone who is sitting Shiva, we do not study Torah (except for the parts of Torah that are associated with the destruction of the temple). We do not sit on chairs or couches, work or do anything leisurely. We do not shower or bathe, and men do not put on Tefillin.
Unlike someone sitting Shiva, as soon as Chatzos has passed, right after the midway point of Tisha B’Av day, there is a strange custom. We begin to clean our homes. We demonstrate that even though we are going through a period of mourning, we still anticipate the arrival of Moshiach. That out of the darkest of places, we know with all our hearts that one day we will be everlasting joy.
In fact, we refer to this month, from hereon after, as Menachem Av. That is, a comforted month of Av. We express our prayer that all bad experiences will be transformed into good ones in the coming times of Moshiach. May we all be comforted speedily in our time!
Five prohibitions govern this day. On Tisha B’Av adults do not:
The Talmud states that Hashem, so to speak, cries privately over the destruction of the Temple. Maharal writes that the secret hideaway where G-d cries is situated within the soul of every Jew. For the soul emanates from the Creator and is hidden deep inside man.
A Jew’s soul cries incessantly over the Destruction of the Temple. It weeps without letup for all that has been lost. But why is it not detected? The Chassidic master, Reb Bunim of P’shis’cha offered a parable. Once there was a king that amassed fantastic treasures which he hid in a secret hideaway deep under his palace. One day a great fire broke out in the capital. It spread quickly, burning down the palace, as well as the hideaway that contained the treasures. A great wave of mourning swept over the nation and they cried for all that had lost. But the king cried most bitterly of all. Only he knew about the fantastic treasures that had been destroyed.
Like the countrymen, we cry for the Beis Hamikdash. Our souls, however, cry most of all. Deep in the recesses of our soul, beyond what ordinary men can detect, we exhibit a clearer recognition. And while it may not be easily detectable, on Tisha B’av that cry rises and expresses itself in a way that is tangible even for ordinary human beings.
The Temple unified the Jewish nation. Like the heart of man, it pumped the vitality of the people that coursed through their veins, offering a connection to spirituality far beyond our ability to imagine. While we will forever endure, we exist in a crippled state. Today, Jerusalem is a sprawling city, home to tens of thousands of Jews, Torah institutions, and prayer. But it’s most vital organ is missing.
Yet, although we cry for what we once had, we weep mostly for the future. The following story illustrates why.
The great Rama, Rabbi Moshe Isserles, writes that the Greek philosopher Plato accompanied Nebuchadnezzar when he came to destroy the First Temple. After the destruction, Plato found the prophet Jeremiah weeping bitterly near the Temple ruins. Plato asked Jeremiah two questions. First, how could such an eminent man cry so bitterly over sticks and stone and besides, the Temple already burned down? What benefit is there to tears?
At this point, Jeremiah asked Plato about some of his most vexing philosophical questions. The great philosopher listed off some thorny problems, which Jeremiah answered with ease. Shocked, Plato exclaimed, “I cannot imagine that a mere mortal can be so wise!”
Jeremiah then said that all his knowledge emanated from those “sticks and stones”, which explained why Jeremiah was crying so bitterly. However, Jeremiah said that he could not answer why tears are beneficial after the fact. Plato would not understand.
Some suggest that Jeremiah wouldn’t answer why he still cried because Plato could never understand. Our tears aren’t just for the past; we cry for the future. While the heavenly gates were sealed off since the destruction, the gate of tears remains. Every tear ascends heavenward and is collected and contributes toward the reconstruction of the final and everlasting Temple. This is a belief that rational Plato could never comprehend, as it defied logic. As such, Jeremiah left the question unanswered.
Reciting Eichah
After sunset, on the eve of Tisha B’Av, thousands of Jews gather in the Big Shul to mourn the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash. It is customary to dim the lights and sit on the floor during to the Eichah reading.
Mourning the Destruction
After sunset, on the eve of Tisha B’Av, thousands of Jews gather in the Big Shul to mourn the destruction of the Beis Hamikdash. It is customary to dim the lights and sit on the floor during the Eichah reading.
Praying for the Redemption
At Shachris on Tisha B’Av morning we daven without wearing a Tallis or Tefilin. The special Tisha B’Av Kinos are recited until midday.
Rays of Hope
Tisha Bav afternoon our spirits begin to lift as a new light of hope and redemption begins to shine.
Awaiting the Geulah
When Tisha B’Av concludes, the Rebbe leads a L’chaim with heartfelt singing. Songs of hope and redemption uplift the hearts and souls of many who yearn for the new spark of Redemption that will hopefully arrive speedily in our days.
Awaiting the Geulah
When Tisha B’Av concludes, the Rebbe leads a L’chaim with heartfelt singing. Songs of hope and redemption uplift the hearts and souls of many who yearn for the new spark of Redemption that will hopefully arrive speedily in our days.
Words of Hope
At the Lechaim, the Rebbe speaks about the Geula, inspiring those present with hope and joy.
By The Kosel
Later that same night, the Yeshiva students gather at the Kosel to sing songs of hope and inspiration.
By The Kosel
Later that same night, the Yeshiva students gather at the Kosel to sing songs of hope and inspiration.
We mourn the past with complete faith in Hashem that one day He will restore what we once had. Then our happiness will be complete. With that in mind, a story from the previous Belzer Rebbe, Rav Aharon Rockeach comes to mind:
Nothing quite compares to a Rebbe’s tisch. Hundreds of Chassidim bedecked in fur shtreimels and elegant bekeshas sway to-and-fro, singing, clapping and stamping in unison. The Rebbe sits at the head table. He conducts the music. He speaks Torah. He guides his followers in matters of faith.
That is how it was in Europe prior to the war. And that is how it had been for as long as anyone could remember. But now it was different. It was right after the Holocaust. Like always, people thronged around the Rebbe, like any other Friday night. But the mood was somber. Faces were defeated, hollow, and dead. It was as if their souls had left them but their bodies were still there. Now stood men who had made it back from hell. They had lost everything they once had. Fathers, mothers, wives, siblings, children, communities, possessions. Gone. Now they weren’t dressed in Chassidic gear. They wore caps and jackets. They looked at their Rebbe and he looked back at them. What was there to say?
Then Rav Aharon spoke. He said “Moshe Rabbeinu sang Az Yashir at the splitting of the sea. But the word Yashir is future tense. The implication is that they would sing, but weren’t they singing right now?” The Rebbe answered, “Moshe was alluding to something else. Something greater. Moshe said thus. Now we sing, but there will be a greater song still. At the time of Techiyas Hameisim, they will sing a very great song that will never end.”
“Imagine the nation at the Sea of Suf. Eighty percent of the people had died in the Plague of Darkness. They never made it out. These were the people’s fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters, children, and relatives. They didn’t have the will to sing. But Moshe instilled in them trust, optimism, and faith. He said, even if you don’t have the will to sing right now, you will sing then! One day Moshiach will arrive and your loved ones will all come back to life. A very great song of happiness awaits.”
Now the men at the tisch began to cry. Tears streamed down their faces. They buried their faces in their hands and they sobbed. They cried for what once was. But they wept also for the future. The message was clear. One day they would be reunited with their loved ones and there will be a very great song. That song would never end.